Game Freaking On

It was my debt payoff tracker. On it was every credit card I owed, with its balance and due date, sorted by the smallest amount first. At the top, I'd written: "Game freaking on."

Looking at it now, I remember that moment when everything shifted. When I stopped being a victim of my circumstances and decided to take back my life.

Back then, I had over six figures of debt, hadn't paid my mortgage in a year, and owed the IRS for seven years of unfiled taxes. I was about to turn fifty, recently divorced, and had moved three times in four years.

From the outside, it looked like I'd lost everything.

From the inside? I'd finally found myself.

The Real Work Isn't What You Think. 

When people ask me about starting a VA business, they usually want to know about the technical stuff. What software to use. How to set up contracts. What to charge.

But here's what I've learned after fifteen years: The real work of being a successful Virtual Assistant isn't administrative, it's personal.

It's learning to trust yourself when you don't have a boss telling you what to do.

It's having the confidence to set boundaries when clients push back.

It's believing you're worth what you charge, even when that voice in your head says you're not.

Most of all, it's stopping the exhausting habit of twisting yourself into what you think other people want you to be.

For most of my life, I changed myself to fit in. Different clothes, different interests, different personality; whatever it took to belong somewhere.

I did it as a kid, moving from town to town. I did it in relationships. I even did it in my first business, Blueberry Babies, trying to be the entrepreneur I thought I was supposed to be instead of the one I actually was.

It wasn't working, and I was exhausted.

The day I decided to stop trying to fit in and start being myself was the day my life finally changed.

Here's the truth:

You don't need permission to be yourself. Stop waiting for someone else to validate you.

Your past doesn't define your future. I was drowning in debt at fifty. Two years later, I'd built a six-figure business. Your story isn't over.

You need to retrain the voices in your head. When they start the negative chatter, say "Oh yeah, we're not doing this now" and replace them with something better.

Confidence is an inside job. It comes from keeping promises to yourself, not from other people's approval.

This week, I want you to do one thing that feels authentically you. Not what you think you should do, not what looks good to others; what feels right in your gut.

Trust that feeling. It knows the way.

Here's what those years taught me: You can't build a real business, or a real life, and make everyone else happy, too.

The moment I stopped caring what other people thought and started listening to what was true for me, everything changed.

My business took off because I was finally showing up as myself. For the first time, I chose a partner instead of changing myself to keep one.

Most importantly, I was finally home.

Look inside. That's where your power lies.

xo,