Live Your Best Life as a Virtual Assistant

I was at a conference this week with my coach James Wedmore in Irvine, CA. 

The room was filled with entrepreneurs who are building courses and communities. People at all different stages - some just starting, some years in. 

I gave a talk about how I built The VA Connection and I got a standing o...

In 2019, I went to an industry conference for Virtual Assistants with Greg in San Antonio, Texas. 

1,580 miles as the crow flies from Connecticut. Not a quick trip. 

At the time, my Facebook group had about a hundred members. Mostly friends and family.

I had no course to sell. No program to pitch...

A few weeks ago I wrote about the fear of being seen. 

How I used to make myself small. How I believed struggling made me more relatable. How putting myself out there felt dangerous. 

A lot of you wrote back. You felt it too.

But here's the thing I didn't say: hiding doesn't always look like hidi...

I used to think people wouldn't like me if everything was good. 

Not consciously. But somewhere deep down, I believed that struggling made me a better friend. More human. More real. 

If I said things were going well, I'd feel like I was bragging and it would make the other person feel bad.

So I l...

My whole life I was told I was too much. 

I talked too much. I said things I shouldn't say. I should know better. 

So I learned to be quiet. I learned to make myself small. I held back. 

And when I did get attention, I thought it was because I was doing something wrong.

It never occurred to me t...

Life is choice.

Before my family came to visit this weekend, I asked myself: How do I want to feel when it's over?

Satisfied. Connected. Peaceful. Rested.

Then I made choices that would get me there.

I picked six cups of blueberries and made a pie from scratch. I could have bought one. But the j...

Before I got divorced, I kept waiting for someone to save me. 

I didn't say it out loud. I didn't even really know I was doing it. But somewhere deep down, I believed that something would magically change. 

Someone would step in. I wouldn't have to tear my whole life apart and start over.

My onli...

I spent my 30's and 40's trying to get somewhere that I realized in my 50's would never make me happy. 

I was trying to climb the ladder of financial success, I was extremely status conscious, and felt judgement everywhere I looked. 

I heard people talk about designing a life they loved, but frank...

I want to ask you a question. 

When you picture the VA business you want what does it look like? 

You work from home. You set your own hours. You're not asking anyone for permission to take a day off. You're making real money doing work you're good at.

You have clients who respect you. Monday mor...

I read something last night that made me pause. 

"In order to successfully serve people, you have to psychologically get underneath them. While you are serving them, you have to subjugate your ego to their needs." 

That's from Stuart Wilde. And I think it's the secret to everything I've built as a...